i can 't handle my autistic child anymore

Having two autistic children (one moderate and one severe) has ruined my life and my wifes life. Ripping fabric is an interesting sensation, so is squeezing out toothpaste or shampoo. This article is good that woman that posted that video deserves to be called out for her mistakes. Heres one for YOU, please stop Blogging YOUR Bullshit. Theres a severe lack of resources for autistic children and their families. Some days better than others. For example, if your wife likes spicy spaghetti and your daughter cries when given spice, place the spice shakers on the table instead of mixing spice into the sauce. Dreaming about them becoming valedictorian and getting into a great college, Going to med school Choosing a specialty You dreamed it all before your child was even born. If you can love and accept your child as he or she is it will show through. Write about your frustrations in a private journal. Suggestions to keep this inside is ridiculous, harmful, unhealthy, crap advice. No such thing. "More than half of children with autism have moderate to severe sleep disturbances," according to the ATN specialists. The problem here isnt the teachers, most of whom are going beyond duty for the children. Email me if you need someone to talk to. During these stories, appreciate what your child is trying to convey, and ask a question or two if you want to understand better. I follow her page, I found that video as I was myself coming to terms with this whole forever scenario, I felt soooo alone, I needed her video. But if I find that I need support, I will post on a support thread without hesitation. Raising a child with autism is a nightmare I wouldnt wish on my worst enemy. To be so disrespectful of anothers choices on how she helps educate the world on the MANY FACES of autism, and those who love them yours, your childs, my child, Coopers mother, me we all have the right to feel how we feel and share what we feel comfortable sharing as THAT CAN HELP OTHER FAMILIES. You know this Spectrum, umbrella, some of us have it worse than others and stop playing the Im autistic, too card as a means to double down that YOU ARE RIGHT, there is no right, there is simply this fucked up reality and everyone has to navigate it differently some of us got it worse than others. Whoever wrote this article youre an idiot. He screams most of the time hes awake. It is an insult to momsplain that behavior is communication. By signing up you are agreeing to receive emails according to our privacy policy. My daughter has a fragile bone disorder and were desperate to keep him away from her so that he doesnt break her bones. You should probably take this article down. Shes human with rough life circumstances that broke down and reached out for support in a moment of weakness. AS someone whos autism was so hidden I wasnt even diagnosed until 31, I can tell you it wasnt easy for me or my parents. Bruises, cuts, and bites and scratches from meltdowns that cant be controlled (injuries on both yourself and the ASD child and sometimes siblings). People vent about their parents, their spouses, their siblings but no-one judges them harshly for it. Even people who are just looking for a sentimental video, but dont have one autistic in their lives themselves. Theres venting which needs to be done in an appropriate place, whether the child is neurotypical, autistic, or has ADHD. So people can learn what autism is. Let it be. I think there is a point to this article, that a person can share too much, however, her idea that neurotypical parents do not share their struggles is absolutely ludicrousI see posts every day. It looks nice, but its not. Period. The first six years of my sons life nearly killed me. Im so sick of parents complaining about the normal teenage antics of their kids. Thats why shes asking for privacy, because while I hope to god that your son outlives you, statistics say that someone elses Autistic child wont. Don't punish/criticize the child or push them to do something if they aren't comfortable, because they'll associate social interactions with negative feelings. No government services. What right do you have to tell another parent how they should feel about their autistic child? They help me see the world in full color! My heart aches for him. How they hope and pray for a cure? Sincerely, He felt more understood because he was. we also care for a child diagnosed with autism who have achieved some of the remarkable things for a 14 year old. Signed, an autistic. Saying you wouldnt say these things about your normal child why would you abut the one that is autistic. Wonderful article. So do both a favor drop out of those groups so those parents can vent and talk and not be judged by the likes of you. This feels incredibly frustrating, and your child may act out. It will take some time for your child to understand the routine and realize that it will remain the same or similar every day. I think sharing about how to deal with parenting issues (regardless of whether the child is ND or NT) is invaluable. Venting and talking about the struggle and frustrations its not the issue here. You have no clue what it is too realize, and YES grieve, because your child will never have a comfortable existence, and may never even go to school much less graduate. You say your son will outlive you, and I have to break it to you: that might not be realistic worry for your son. However, with love and respect, you can increase social skills and help your child find happiness. Do not take this personally, but do stop insulting hard working parents. far more than a typical child. He is my best teacher. Maybe she didnt handle it the way you would have but its not your kid. You are telling her to tone it down, and you are doing nothing to truly help, but making her (and other mothers) feel bad for having an opinion. Implementing a new routine can be difficult, so be patient. When I have 27-33 kids in one room it is basically impossible meet the needs of every student let alone the students with austim. My oldest has her DL and when school thought she couldnt do it I said shell fail like any other child. Take a seat. References. Their kids still have PTSD, no matter how lovingly they were abused. I have two children with autism. Im one of the lucky high-functioning ones & even I was a burden to parent. Pointing out to an adult what they are doing is harmful is different than unintentionally harming your child repeatedly. For people posting that High-Functioning Autistics are nothing like my kid- sometimes they are. It would be a miracle if my son could learn to express himself as people with Aspergers do. And then I got it. 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